Have you ever wondered if some placements in the chart indicate a tendency for loneliness more than others? This post explores loneliness through the lens of astrology.
Loneliness can manifest in various forms: you might experience complete isolation from others, or you might feel alone in a crowd or even in a friend group, suffering because no one truly understands you.
From an astrological point of view, the most important things to look for are factors that indicate blockages in connecting with the world. These are air houses in the first place: the third, seventh and eleventh house. However, other placements can also prevent you from feeling that you belong.
This article focuses on loneliness, i.e. being alone despite not wanting to. Solitude and being alone from time to time is different because they don’t cause you suffering, while chronic loneliness does. Some placements that indicate enjoying solitude: 12th house placements, 8th house placements, lots of water.
Loneliness in Astrology
The birth chart describes your personality and the blessings and challenges in your life. Some placements hint at a gregarious, well-liked personality, while others suggest that you face more difficulties when it comes to relating with others.
The most significant planets for loneliness in astrology is Saturn, but it’s not the only one. Afflicted personal planets and air houses also indicate such challenges.
It’s important that even if you have a few or many of these placements, you are not predestined for a life of loneliness. The natal chart just shows where you have more difficulties than most people and what to focus on improving. Integrating difficult placements leads to a more authentic and fulfilling life where you work on fulfilling your potential instead of being limited by your weaknesses.
Here are some placements and aspects that point to a tendency for loneliness in astrology.
3rd House Problems
The third house is the first air house in the chart. It is associated with the zodiac sign Gemini. It is about simple, light but still important interactions: small talk, information exchange, light chatter. Although you might not be a fan of small talk, social pleasantries are the first step to get to know someone and connect with them on a more meaningful level later.
In the birth chart, a challenging third house suggests that this is not easy for you. For example, Saturn in the third house suggests that casual conversations are not easy for you. People with this placement are often self-conscious and have trouble with chitchat, what may lead to missing out on opportunities to form deeper bonds.
7th House
The seventh house is the house of partnerships-all kinds of partnerships and one-on-one relationships. Issues here tend to manifest more in your love life and thus contribute to feeling lonely. You don’t give the impression of a lonely person when someone meets you, issues tend to come later in the relationship, or even before the relationship is properly formed.
Saturn in 7th house people often struggle with finding a partner. Outer planets-Uranus, Neptune, Pluto- in the seventh house can also hint at struggling with finding a meaningful relationship. The issues here can be avoidance, falling for illusions, power struggles.
In addition to challenging placements in the 7th house, aspects from malefics, especially negative ones (square, inconjunct) can contribute to problems regarding your partnerships.
Personal planets in the 7th house suggest that relationships are very important to you and you crave the feeling of belonging to someone. While some people are fine being on their own, you’d prefer to be with someone else, what can make feeling lonely worse.
11th House
The 11th house is the house of groups. This house is about socializing in a group setting, through activities and societies. It governs activities such as joining a hobby group, going to a networking event, going to a fundraiser, etc. You connect with lots of people who are gathered around a common interest. The eleventh house also rules friend groups, but these friendships tend to be more surface-level, as opposed to the close connection of the 7th house.
In the natal chart, 11th house problems often manifest as never feeling that you fully fit in. They indicate alienation and a constant feeling of being too different to be worthy of acceptance.
Typical 11th house placements for loneliness in astrology:
12th House Placements and Loneliness in Astrology
12th house placements are a typical indicator of a feeling of alienation and isolation..
The 12th house was considered the most negative house in astrology for a very long time. While modern astrology doesn’t see it as such an unfavorable house, 12th house placements can contribute to a feeling of loneliness in astrology. Among other life areas, this house governs seclusion and exile. Planets in the 12th house indicate that isolation is an important theme in your life in some way. People with such charts often spend a lot of time alone (and they enjoy it to a certain extent), physically isolated from others but it often happens on an emotional and intellectual plane as well.
An emphasized 12th house in the natal chart is often a sign that you feel like you don’t really belong to the world. It can feel like you are not seen and not heard. It doesn’t help that 12th-house placements are associated with hypersensitivity. It’s more difficult for you to adopt to the rhythm of society.
Planets, especially personal planets (the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars) here indicate that a part of your personality, represented by the planet is locked away and it has major difficulties expressing itself fully. It’s easy to feel that you are not able to bond with others when there is a part of you that remains hidden. This house is associated with karmic challenges as well, things that cause you quite a lot of suffering before you resolve them.
Chiron on the Ascendant
Chiron conjunct the ascendant suggests that you lack self-confidence, especially at an early age. People with this placement often face bullying and being left out. This is typical for other Chiron-ascendant aspects too, but it’s more pronounced with the conjunction.
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