There are some superficial relationships. A relationship with Moon conjunct Pluto synastry is not one of them.
Synastry charts reveal what you mean to each other in a relationship. In this article, you can learn how to interpret if you see the Moon conjunct Pluto in a synastry chart.
Of all aspects, the conjunction is the strongest here. The energies of the planets completely merge into one, it becomes impossible to tell them apart.
A Moon conjunct Pluto synastry suggests a deep, passionate bond that is not without power struggles and a desire to control and fully possess. Pluto is the planet of intensity, you know.
Moon-Pluto Aspects in Synastry
If you have a Moon-Pluto aspect in synastry, you are in a Plutonian relationship. They are not for the faint-hearted!
These relationships can be described as an intense but at the same time confusing connection. You are automatically compelled by each other with Moon conjunct Pluto in the syanstry chart, but generally speaking, with any Moon-Pluto synastry aspect.
Here’s what to expect in a Moon-Pluto aspect:
- intense emotions
- strong sexual chemistry
- deep bonding
- emotional pain
- being overwhelmed.
This is not an easy relationship, as you can see! You are obsessed with each other, it seems impossible to get your lover out of your mind.
Moon Conjunct Pluto
Moon conjunct Pluto synastry aspect is particularly important, because the Moon is one of the most important planets to look to when it comes to relationships. If you know what the Moon shows in the birth chart, you know why.
This luminary represents your emotions, unconscious, how you want to be nurtured, and what makes you feel taken care of. Quite important in a relationship, right?
Pluto, on the other hand, is all about intensity, depth, transformation. It’s passionate and dangerous, something that makes the Moon freak out. Imagine the Moon as a flower, and Pluto as nuclear powerhouse. These two things don’t really go hand in hand.
As you can see, the soft Moon and mysterious Pluto have to make a lot of effort to make the relationship work out. The same is true not just for Moon conjunct Pluto, but all Moon-Pluto aspects in synastry.
Moon Conjunct Pluto Synastry: Intense Emotions
What to expect here?
Moon conjunct Pluto synastry is not a relationship based on rationality. You are attracted to each other like a moth to the flame, even when it doesn’t make sense.
There is a deep transforming power to Plutonian relationships. Pluto is the alchemist of astrology, it has the ability to transform events and people. Pluto digs deep and wants the truth. Pluto gives intensity to everything it comes into contact with.The Moon is the instincts, habits, unconscious patterns.
When you see Moon conjunct Pluto Synastry, there is a magnetic attraction in a relationship. The Moon person is extremely attracted to the Pluto person. If you are the Moon person, you are instinctively drawn to the Pluto person, it’s almost like you were obsessed with them. This conjunction usually triggers extreme emotions.
There is one thing you have to know about Pluto in astrology: it’s never easy to handle.
The Pluto person, on the other hand, sometimes doesn’t know how to deal with the Moon person. Their softness overwhelms them (soft as not in the good sense of the world), and sometimes they see the Moon person as needy and childish. In this relationship, it’s the Pluto person who holds the power.
Because of its intensity, Pluto adds a dangerous touch to the Moon conjunct Pluto relationship.
The Moon person feels like they cannot live without the Pluto person. Plutonian relationships are associated with obsession for a reason. However, Plutonian relationships are often romanticized, because in reality, they are incredibly painful, too.
A Moon conjunct Pluto relationship is filled with tension (of the wrong kind). The Moon person is obsessed with the Pluto person, but it’s the Pluto person who has all the power in the relationship. Often, the Moon person willingly gives the Pluto person the power, without even realizing.
Pluto-Moon Aspects: Out of Control
If you had to describe Moon conjunct Pluto synastry, it would be emotional intensity.
If the relationship is good, the relationship can be healing and deeply transforming. But if not, the Moon conjunct Pluto synastry can be tragic and extremely painful. Pluto can trigger self-destructive behavior in the Moon person. The Moon person often gives subconscious emotional responses to the Pluto person.
Sometimes it feels like the Moon conjunct Pluto synastry relationship is out of control. Turmoils are a typical part of Plutonian relationships in astrology. Heated arguments often occur, just like more subtle and refined tactics. You can feel exhausted and tired from time to time, but still, you want to go back to the other person.
Remember, the Moon is extremely soft and sensitive. The intensity of Pluto feels very strange and scary here. This planet often feels overwhelming to anyone, especially to this emotional and gentle planet. A Moon-Pluto aspects in synastry is never a piece of cake.
Through the intensity of the Moon conjunct Pluto synastry relationship, the Pluto person can easily offend the Moon person. Because of the Moon person’s sensitivity, the Pluto person often hurts their feelings and need for safety unintentionally.
Often, the affection of the Moon person triggers the ego of the Pluto person. They feed on the idea of the Moon person being obsessed with them.
Moon Conjunct Pluto Synastry and Power Struggles
Pluto is about power in astrology. It wants control and domination. Pluto is always hungry for power. Playing games is part of Pluto in astrology: refined mental tactics or violent outbursts are both part of Pluto’s manifestation.
In a relationship where Pluto is in aspect with a personal planet, power struggles are inevitable. Moon conjunct Pluto synastry aspect is a perfect example of how these power struggles play out.
In a Moon-Pluto synastry aspect, it’s the Pluto person who has the power. They have the upper hand. This brings imbalance into the relationship, because in an ideal one, you are equal partners. But not here.
The Moon person is aware of this (at least subconsciously). They feel that something is odd. It bothers them that the Pluto person is in control, however, they often go to great heights to please them.
Plutonian relationships are not to be romanticized. There is often manipulation involved, or in some cases, even abuse. The Pluto person can take advantage of the Moon person’s strong affection.
This is not to say that the Pluto person doesn’t love the Moon person (or at least that they are not attracted to them). Relationships are just as complex as humans, and you have to take the whole chart into consideration.
Often, the affection of the Moon person is too much for the Pluto person. They sometimes feel stifled in the relationship, and want the Moon person to give them more space.
Being possessive and jealous are also frequently present in Moon-Pluto aspect Plutonian relationships, especially with the hard aspects (square, opposition, conjunction). You want your partner to spend more time with you, preferably all the time they have. You want to be the center of their world.
With Moon conjunct Pluto synastry, the Moon person sometimes feel controlled by the Pluto person. It feels like the Pluto person knows how to push the buttons. The Moon person feels powerless and vulnerable, but still, they are terrified of loosing the other person and ending the relationship. However, the Pluto person is afraid of loosing the Moon person, too.
If the Pluto person feels that the relationship is about to end, they might use manipulative tactics to hold them back. Loosing the other person triggers intense fear and emotions. Plutonian relationships are incredibly hard to get out of, even when they don’t work anymore.
Read this: Plutonian relationships in astrology
Moon Conjunct Pluto Synastry and Deep Transformation
As humans living on this planet, we have to learn that transformation is part of the process, if not the whole process. Cycles of death and rebirth happen on a psychological level all the time. The less resistance you feel, the easier it will be for you.
When the Moon and Pluto meet in a synastry chart, especially with the conjunction, square, or opposition, you can expect a deep cleanse to happen.
The Pluto person forces the Moon person to go into the unexplored places of their soul. Pluto is famous for its X-ray vision in astrology. In a Moon conjunct Pluto synastry aspect, it feels like the Pluto person knows everything about the Moon person: there are no secrets, you cannot lie.
Often, we build up fake personalities. They exist to protect you, but often, they are also there because you are afraid to face the real you.
With a Moon conjunct Pluto synastry aspect, it’s time to let go. Your partner helps you figure out who you really are, and be truly you. There are challenges that make you think about and question what truly comes from you and what is an external influence.
Pluto is the Roman equivalent of the Greek Hades, the god of the underworld. In a Moon conjunct Pluto relationship, you are challenged to face the hell inside you, where your fears live.
Pluto is known as a dark planet, and there are definitely some dark qualities to it. Dark as in chaotic and erratic, what scares us, human beings wired for wanting safety. You don’t know what is down there waiting for you. Pluto has strong destructive power, too. The best you can do is to choose the parts of you that don’t work well, and give them voluntarily to Pluto.
In a Moon-Pluto synastry aspect, the Moon person often feels vulnerable. The Pluto person can see who the Moon person really is, and they are aware of the Moon person’s subconscious needs and motivations. When feeling threatened, they use this psychological insight for manipulation.
Which leads us to the next point: power struggles in a Plutonian relationship.
Moon-Pluto Synastry Aspects: Trine and Sextile
If you have a Moon trine Pluto or Moon sextile Pluto aspect in your synastry chart, there is a significantly easier flow of energy in the relationship. Both of you can benefit tremendously from this relationship.
Pluto is not just about obsession, revenge, jealousy, power struggles, or manipulation. The true mission of Pluto is healing. It helps us heal the trauma of the past, and in the process, we discover new depths and heights, and hopefully, evolve.
This is exactly what happens in a relationship with a harmonious Moon-Pluto aspect in synastry. The negative manifestations described above are either milder or they are not even here.
This aspect suggests a deep, transformative connection. The relationship has a huge potential to turn into a lasting, strong union. You feel emotionally regenerated, and it helps you get rid of any subconscious blocks. The Pluto person is a transformative force in the Moon person’s life, while the Moon person gives safety and support.
Moon-Pluto trine or sextile in a synastry chart suggests a passionate relationship, where intimacy helps you deepen the relationship and make the bond between you even stronger.
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I have this aspect in 0º with a man that I was (with comings and goings) always in love with.
I am the pluto, he is the moon. We met over the internet in 2006, later we met in my country in 2007, we were together for 3 weeks, and since then we have always been in contact. The fact is, we have never met in reality again since 2007, our contact is strictly virtual and we only remember the 3 weeks we had together in real life. I can’t stop thinking about him, then out of blue I searched his name on the internet, and I found out that he is married and the father of 3 children. I got in touch with him, we wrote crazy and extremely hot things for each other in the last weeks of August. He doesn’t know that I know that he has 3 kids and a wife, and he just doesn’t tell me it, it seems like he’s single.
Today (September 5th, 2020), he writes to me that we have something unfinished between us that we never did and always desired. This made me even more in love with him. He is the moon, and in the text above they say that who feels the most is the moon.
I live in Brazil and he lives in Germany, now the possibility of our meeting is minimal in the face of circumstances, but I feel that I need to run after him. I feel guilty, but at the same time I know that I shouldn’t be because he as a husband and father should have more respect.
The only thing is that it is such an obsession that I feel for him, I don’t know if he feels the same for me (I doubt because he’s married and has 3 kids). However, it’s unbelievable how I could fall in love like that for 13 years, and still love him. Remembering our aspect is of 0º.
Great text loved to read that!
Thank you for sharing your experience! It is always interesting to hear how aspects work out in people’s lives. 🙂
Thank you for the awesome article! It really helped me understand this Synastry aspect better.
@KleineKaro, thanks for your comment. I am interested in someone I share this aspect with, and since I’m the Moon person, I wasn’t sure if the interest ran both ways. But your comment suggests that it might not be just one-sided. That’s heartening.
I also agree with both peoples’ comments below about the importance of absolute honesty, especially with this aspect. This guy you’re interested in is not respecting his marriage OR your connection. He needs to man up—or be transformed out of your system, Pluto-style. As the Pluto person, you have the power to call the shots on how much control (if any) you allow this connection to have on you. Love & peace & blessings to all who read this.
Not sure whether this really sounds as Plutonian to me or rather Neptunian… You seem to see the truths but in the same time you dont. You are caught in a chimera and you mistake it as love or obession. I agree it is irrational, it doesnt make any sense (the discourse makes me think of a naive teenager but hey, its been 13 years, whatever age you might have had when the story had started, you cant be a teenager anymore. Do have the maturity to see the truth in the eyes, he’s been lying shamelessly to you since more than a decade). Before you do a synastry it is imperative you first check the natal charts individually. that should help at deciphering a synastry by making clear personal tendencies of each. Mind that someone here has a strong Neptunian vibe. Not sure whether you or him. But check it out quickly because he might have left you emotionally unavailable for more healthier (and not toxic) individuals. You have depleted 13 years of your life that nobody gives you back. You basically lost life. For what? He doesnt love you. If one cant double his words with facts what are his words good for. Isnt this the behavior of someone who loves. Listen to what i say and uregntly raise up your self esteem and set boundaries. This has to finish. You deserve to be truly loved. You can continue the unfinished business with him next life. You have now THIS one, come back to life, light and truth.
A true Plutonian.
We all have that one that got away. Hopefully both sides of OPs story can let their relationship go and remember their great moments for what they were… moments.
@kleinekaro, as someone who has pluto conjunct sun, and experienced this in synastry, i know that it can be overwhelming, it can feel like the love that will never end and in mosr cases, theres no reason it has to.
Pluto conjunct moon is really deeper, but because i know how deep the bond is I advise you not to follow this trail that leads to nowhere. Yes, i say that it leads nowhere positively because this man, no matter his feelings, does not respect you enough to give you the truth. I abhor the fact that people use the bond in such a devious manner, and make it harder for others in a similar situation to trust that their partner isn’t doing the same. If he had good and pure intentions, he would come out with the truth, but this hiding and sneaking, lies and games proves he just has one motive, and that doesnt include building a future with you, at most he intends to have you as a side-piece. Take my word for it, married men have affairs, yes its not so unusual when marriage is taken like a joke, but most dont play with your feelings as well.
Sorry i couldn’t keep much contempt out my words because i’m not about to hide im just plain disappointed that people are so immoral nowadays, the mere fact that he COULD get a girl that doesnt mind forays with married men but he chose you isn’t such a compliment .. It means he values you less than a stranger! even a stranger has courtesy to not intentionally hurt the feelings of someone, this man knowing you for years supposedly “loving” you just built up a whole lie that WILL definitely be revealed one day and does he care that you would be crushed? My word, clearly not.
This is true for me too , this pluto and moon person experience transformed me and liberated me from my past hurt it changed me but I know now it was never supposed to last because I began to love myself too much to live miserably. My intuition was so strong that even when everything was going ” Fine” and i had full control of the relationship and where it can lead us I decided to end it even if I had no real reason to something told me to leave him and I did . Now I feel free I am changed forever but I am sad to see him still being the same he went on a transformation quite different than me he was so innocent and what I thought was pure to being the opposite I guess me leaving showed me the real him and im so lucky to have listened to my intuition early on and yes i also had an online connection with him at the beginning and it got worse once we decided to physically see eachother. DO NOT RECOMMEND TO COMPARE A PLUTO AND MOON RELATIONSHIP TO REAL LOVE IS MORE OF AN ILLUSION
To be fair I see OP and her lover doing the same to each other. She also knows he has a family and is playing with him to see if he will do something serious. It’s giving Ryan and Kelly from the office lol.
Oh God…
I have unconditional love for my pluto person. I want nothing but the best for them and they so far for me. I know they try to manipulate me but only when I try to hide my truth so I am 100 percent honest with them about everything big or little harsh or not. It is the only way for it to work and not be awful. I expect the same from them and they give it to me. BUT as long as they feel like they have Some emotional control over me , like that I belong to them ( I.e I only want them) they are chill if not they fret then they get manipulative. But I understand that so it never gets far down that line.
I am a moon conjunct pluto person and so are they so maybe the energy is easier to handle but we are both huge on truth no matter what. So as long as you are truthful with one an other and genuinely out with good intentions I think it is okay. However neither one of us has tried to leave the other and I imagine that will be a awful experience with the potential to go so bad so fast in just about anyway conceivable.
I like to think neither of us would but it definitely has the potential judging from the intensity of the emotions and feels. We are transforming each other though in positive ways. We are moon conjunct moon exact and moon pluto conjunct at two degrees. Pluto Mars trine, pluot Venus conjunct (hes pluto) with a lot of easier aspects.
I’m the pluto person and seeing your perspective is interesting, especially because of what you said about you two having to always be honest. My relationship is the same way we try our hardest to be honest with each other. Sometimes he gets nervous to tell me things sometimes and struggles to get it out , so often times because of this I try to just blurt out what I know before either of us can get out any other complex thought so everything is out in the open. I’d rather him know I know the truth than to see him attempt to hide something even though he never does he just can take a little bit to say his truth sometimes and I know I’m hard to confront a lot of times even though I try to be more mellow. I want to say I’m not manipulative but I know if I said that it would be a complete lie. I manipulate him often and I really have been coming to terms with myself recently on having to chill out with the control while actively acting like I’m the submissive one even though we both clearly can see its the opposite irl we just don’t let other people see that even though I’m sure some can see it. I’m sorry I’m just rambling at this point but I liked hearing your perspective as someone from the opposite end. I don’t try at all to hurt him or manipulate him but it happens sometimes but I love him with my whole heart and never want to hurt him even though I know it wouldn’t be hard for me to do.
Yes, I have this aspect with my boss at work – and also many more plutonian aspects with him (venus square pluto, sun square pluto etc.). The chemistry is out of this world, it’s impossible to describe the intensity. I’m tired of this, really, but the bond is strong, we’re connected with each other at many levels. I think he feels the same or similar, but we pretend that there’s nothing special between us. It’s difficult to live like that.
I have this with someone I’ve been on three dates with. I’m the Pluto person and can’t stop thinking about him. I’m experiencing full on psychic connection and it’s making me feel crazy because I haven’t communicated with him in two weeks and am not sure if he’s having the same experience. I’ve had two intense dreams and feel him daily. He says he doesn’t want anything serious but I’m having trouble getting him out of my mind. Understanding this helps.
Loved this article – the energy receptions are so true, except in my conjunction dynamic I’m Pluto & he is the Moon and its the qualities of those planets being expressed in our relationship are flipped. With the exception of me being the intense Pluto person & the one that knows everything about him, all the qualities of the Moon are what I am experiencing, and rest of the Pluto qualities (minus the 2 Pluto qualities I noted above) are how I am experiencing him. And also know to be true – as we have disucssed a lot of this stuff! I wonder what means. Either way – There is a strong attraction. But he doesn’t want a relationship and I do. Yet I cant seem leave him nor him leave me. We many other karmic placements but this was an interesting read – thank you!
My moon conjuncts his pluto. (also my sun conjuncts his moon, my venus conjuncts his jupiter) We’ve had a connection for a year and a half. He is extremely charming person on the narcissistic spectrum, I have “unconditional love” attitude to him (I see that he is very insecure inside therefore he needs constant validation from others and I observe him getting it. I have inner acceptance to it even though I see how he uses manipulations on me like touch, certain words, pinging every day etc). Well, in a nutshell I must say he has a key to the door of my deepest insecurities. When I see him I feel drawn like a magnet physically to him. He told me when I come in, the space starts vibrating. All this time for a year every day we’ve been texting to each other, not a single day is missed. Seeing each other occasionally. He’s been texting to other women and openly enjoying my jealousy (and hers). I recently asked him if he wants “to go beyond friendship with me”, he disappeared. I was very emotional about it at first, because despite my full understanding of his nature, I am still very emotionally involved and it bewitches me. I know he is going to text me in a little bit, or in a month, or in a year doesn’t matter even when I have this odd knowledge.
Your guy is a pick-up artist. He is employing their methods. Get out.
What about pluto conjuntion moon and also moon conjuction pluto and pluto conjuction pluto, all în libra?
I am a taurus sun conjunct mars (0°) with a tight trine to virgo pluto conjunct uranus (0°). My mother’s virgo moon conjunct my pluto+uranus conjunction. My ex (short-lived Bonnie&Clyde relationship, without the crime spree, of course), also virgo moon. And just recently, a woman (virgo moon) my mother’s age whom I began helping 6 months ago because she is elderly, lives alone in hazardous conditions. I transformed her living conditions to zero hazards (no charge/no conditions). 3 weeks ago I abruptly broke away from this woman. Made clear that our rupture is 100%. No texts, no calls, no visits. She had begun to behave in a self-destructive manner. ADDICTION to me. Like an alcoholic to alcohol. In the same self-destructive manner of my ex with whom I broke up 30 years ago. To this day, after 30 years, my ex tries to reenter my life in every way possible , befriending my siblings. Just like this elderly woman. It’s NOT LOVE. It’s ADDICTION. I’m their vodka. And if this vodka bottle (me) is empty or the cap won’t open they will throw it across the room to with rage in an attempt break it into smithereens. Also, had a poisonous encounter with my roommate’s gf who had venus in virgo (I WAS NOT interested in her). Good thing she was only visiting him for a week. No more virgo females for me thanks. Virgo males are ok.