Have you ever felt that no matter how much you try to articulate your feelings, the other person simply doesn’t get it? Or that it is very difficult to make the other person feel supported, no matter how hard you try. It’s as though the message doesn’t get through.
If you have the Moon square Saturn synastry aspect with someone, these scenarios are probably familiar to you.
Saturn is not an easy influence in astrology, including synastry. However, easy Saturn aspects (the trine and the sextile) bring reliability and commitment, and overall, make the relationship feel very safe and stable. With the squares, oppositions, and even with the conjunction, the situation is different, though. Unfortunately, the Moon square Saturn synastry aspect is felt intensely even when it has a wide orb.
This aspect is quite challenging, one of the most difficult ones in synastry. It triggers many unconscious insecurities. Reliving old hurts is also very likely. To overcome the Moon square Saturn synastry aspect, high levels of self-awareness are needed from both people.
On one hand, the Moon person feels that they don’t get the emotional support and closeness they want. They often feel unloved. The Saturn person, on the other hand, is focused on stability and achieving goals—and the Moon’s ’emotional drama’ is just getting in the way. They often don’t know how to show love (in a way the Moon person finds it meaningful). The Moon person finds the Saturn person obtuse, insensitive, while the Saturn person finds the Moon person a crybaby and might be annoyed by their (perceived or real) sensitivity.
Unless other aspects override it, communication is often lacking.
The Moon square Saturn synastry aspect is alienating and it makes you feel lonely. There is an emotional disconnect.
When the Moon person is feeling down, needing consolidation and emotional support, a shoulder to cry on, the Saturn person’s way of providing that just adds fuel to the fire and makes the Moon person feel even worse.
Keep reading to learn more about how the Moon square Saturn synastry aspect works!
The Astrological Context
The type of the relationship is really important. The Moon square Saturn synastry aspect is less frustrating in connections that are not based on emotional closeness. For example, this influence can be less detrimental if you have it with a coworker, a distant acquaintance you sometimes hang out with but don’t share your deepest thoughts and feelings. This aspect often has a teacher-student dimension, regardless of the actual connection type. You can learn a lot from the other person if you are willing.
In a long-term relationship or in a parent-child relationship, Moon square Saturn in synastry becomes much more challenging. These are the people who you want to feel supported and loved by—but Saturn blocks the emotional closeness. Hopefully, there are other supportive aspects between your personal planets that ease the frustration the Moon square Saturn synastry aspect brings.
Moon square Saturn synastry relationships tend to improve with age and maturity. However, it’s a question whether the relationship will be sustained till that point.
Can a relationship work with this aspect? Yes (everything is possible), but it’s difficult. It can work better if the Moon is in a less emotional sign. It is particularly difficult for water Moons, such as the Moon in Cancer or the Moon in Pisces. As mentioned above, it also helps if there are other supportive aspects in the synastry chart and of course, if you have a good composite chart. For example, compatible Moon signs can the tension of the Moon square Saturn synastry aspect. Harmonious connections between the Sun, Mercury, Venus are also favorable.
Read more: the Moon in Signs
House overlay is also important.
And of course, you should analyze the birth charts of the two people separately besides reading the synastry chart.
Moon Square Saturn Synastry Meaning:
The Moon and Saturn are two very different planets. In fact, they are both driven by wanting to sustain themselves, but they have different ways of doing it.
The Moon person often feels that they have to earn the love of the Saturn person. The Saturn person has very high expectations from the Moon person. They want the Moon person to do their best and strive for perfection. But they often feel that they can’t live up to the Saturn person’s expectations, no matter how hard they try. In a parent-child relationship, if the child is the Moon, this aspect suggests that he or she is very self-critical and hard on himself or herself.
The Saturn person is not aware of the internal struggles of the Moon person. (The rest of the chart can indicate more closeness, but when talking about an isolated Moon square Saturn synastry aspect) The emotional aspect of the relationship works very well, as it should be working, according to them.
They tend to criticize the Moon but they not aware of it. This causes lots of frustration and internal struggles for the Moon person. If things are really bad, their self-confidence might be eroding.
Generally speaking, the Saturn person usually works hard to support the Moon person. They bring structure into the life of the Moon person. They do their best to be there for them and provide them with everything they consider substantial, but this is often out of sync with the Moon person’s needs.
The Moon person can perceive the Saturn person as domineering and too strict. They might feel blocked or held back from decision-making. The Moon person often finds the Saturn person a restrictive influence. The Saturn person feels called to ‘guide’ the Moon person but the Moon person views them as controlling.
Generally speaking, the Moon square Saturn synastry aspect can manifest as having to face external challenges together that need a lot of patience to overcome. The relationship often feels restrictive for the Moon person.
The Saturn person (unintentionally) often triggers the Moon person’s childhood wounds if they haven’t integrated them. If there was some friction between the Moon person and their father, the Saturn person often reminds them of it. Any unresolved emotional patterns from the past are brought up again with a Moon square Saturn synastry aspect.
There might be a difference between the maturity levels of the two people. Sometimes this manifests in one person being more mature regarding some life areas and the other person in the other areas of life.
The good thing about this aspect can be a sense of stability. The Moon person perceives the Saturn person as a reliable influence they can build with and count on.
Saturn aspects are very karmic, the Moon square Saturn synastry aspect being no exception. Depending on the rest of the chart, it can be difficult to break the bond, as Saturn contributes to the longevity of a relationship.
How to Deal with the Moon Square Saturn Synastry Aspect?
With this placement, maturity is a must. The Saturn person has to accept that the Moon person is not unhappy to annoy them, it’s just how they feel and emotions can’t be controlled. The Saturn person has to learn to hold space for the Moon person. They should also recognize that criticism is very harmful and they should do it only sparingly and give constructive criticism.
The Moon person should be more understanding about the Saturn person’s point of view. The Saturn person usually does a lot of things for the Moon person, but the Moon person often overlooks these when hurt. One of the karmic dimensions of the Moon square Saturn synastry aspect is learning resilience for the Moon person. It’s ideal if they have other sources of emotional support besides the Saturn person.
Moon in Astrology
Simply put, the Moon represents your soul in astrology. This luminary rules emotions, intuition, needs. It also represents your sense of home, your need for nurturing and safety, your mother and your relationship with her. It also describes your roots, memories, and part of your unconscious. The Moon is an extremely important celestial body in astrology.
In the Zodiac, the Moon is the ruling planet of Cancer. It is linked with the fourth house of home and family.
Because of its fast movement through the Zodiac (it only spends 2.5 days in a sign!), the Moon’s position in a birth chart is extremely significant. It is central in synastry as well, especially regarding close relationships where emotional closeness plays a big role, and the Moon is all about emotions.
Saturn in Astrology
Saturn is very different from the Moon. Saturn doesn’t care about emotional support: this planet is all about facts and reality. Saturn is about the consequence of your actions, no matter if they are positive or negative. Saturn embodies the saying you reap what you sow.
In astrology, Saturn rules time, karma, everything long-term and permanent, old age, the elderly. Saturn is about patience and persistence. This planet is linked with restrictions and challenges as well.
In the birth chart, Saturn represents life areas where you often face limitations and where you have to be resilient and persistent, work hard and never give up. Saturn teaches us not to be discouraged by the difficulties we faca on our journey. It is about long-term goals that have huge payoffs if you put in the work.
Saturn is the ruling planet of Capricorn and the co-ruler of Aquarius.
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